I originally built this workbook for the teens I coached directly — 46 pages of the exact questions and exercises I used to help them figure out who they are (separate from what everyone else told them), work through anxiety and overthinking, and build real confidence.
Here's what I learned running it with dozens of teens, though: it barely ever worked as a "do this on your own" assignment. It worked when someone sat next to them. Asked the questions out loud. Went first.
So that someone is going to be you.
What's inside
Discover — favorites, strengths, values, the words that actually describe them (not the ones that got stuck to them)
Dream — who they're becoming, in three areas that shape the rest of their life: identity, belonging, and purpose
Become — a fixed vs. growth mindset assessment, and a step-by-step process for turning "I want to change" into actually doing it
Bonus toolkit — anxiety and panic attack tools, an emotion wheel for naming big feelings, a "change your thinking" exercise for negative self-talk, and sections on overthinking, people-pleasing, and fear
Plus two new sections written just for this version:
A mom-facing intro that reframes the whole workbook as something you do with your teen, not something you hand off
How to Use This With Your Teen — four real ways to bring it into your relationship, whether that's a sit-down conversation or one question dropped into a car ride
How it works
You won't finish this in a weekend, and that's the point. Pull one page. One car-ride question. One "random thing I was thinking about" over dinner. Some weeks you'll get real conversation. Other weeks, one-word answers. Both are progress.
The goal was never to complete the workbook. The goal is that your teen starts to believe, one question at a time, that you're a safe place to bring the real stuff.
Becoming You: A Workbook for Teens (and the Parent Who Sits Beside Them)
46 pages of the exact questions and exercises Becky used with dozens of teens to build real confidence, work through anxiety and overthinking, and figure out who they are, separate from what everyone else told them. But here's what she learned: it barely worked as a "do it yourself" assignment. It worked when someone sat next to them and went first. This version is built for that — with a mom-facing guide on how to bring it into your relationship, one car-ride question at a time.
Murphy Makes a Mistake
Murphy the cat wants to be perfect — until one wobbly mistake teaches him that messing up doesn't make you bad, it makes you brave. A warm, funny picture book about perfectionism, self-acceptance, and the courage to try anyway — perfect for classrooms, homeschool groups, and bedtime shelves.